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NetWORKING or NetWISHING, What are you doing?

As I put the finishing touches on my preparation and giveaway prizes  for today’s launch of a new networking group in my area; I began to think about all the ones I have been apart of in the past and current ones I belong to.

Some people pay money coming to networking events WISHING that just by showing up they will get more business. If that is you then you may have more fortune putting that money in a wishing well.

I have noticed among my peers that there are usually two extreme opinions about networking groups.

These thoughts usually dictate their success. Some see this as an opportunity to make great connections and where people thrive, with excitement in networking settings and some people see it as a once a month “PR expense”.

 I am not really sure where you are but I kinda get a little opinionated on those things in this video:

To sum up what I elaborated on in the video; here are some things that have helped me come to love and enjoy networking groups instead of seeing it as a social event, solely or a  “PR Cameo Appearance” among their professional peers.

I mean if you are going to wish like that, you may as well go grab a big turkey, get the wishbone and pull!

Hopefully you will begin to see  with these tips why it is called netWORKing, instead of netWISHING:

BE A MINGLER AND MIX IT UP: If you walk into a room with the intention of meeting other people, please do not assume that EVERYONE is going to walk up to you. Most will but not all will and one of the reasons networking groups work so well is because they allow you to get to know what people do. How can you know what someone does if you don’t mingle with them? Hmm?

BE ENERGETIC: Listen, I could REALLY REALLY campout here but I won’t just understand if you don’t do learn anything else, learn this: People flock to TIGGERs, not Eeyores.

BE IN THE MOMENT: I have seen too many times, where people are usually there physically but they are somewhere else within their head space. If you have networking games going on, or even just in a simple conversation; forget about what you have to do at the office. It will be there when you get back, I PROMISE. When you are speaking to another person engage in conversation, ask questions about them. People like to talk about themselves – even if they don’t admit it; we all love it when someone shows an interest in what we do and who we are at our core.

BE GIVING: Give something away. I know you are actually there to get business, but you should still give something away. Think of walking into someone’s sphere of influence as if you were walking into someone’s house: You are only there by invitation and you will remain there with appreciation. How much more would someone appreciate a gift before a request for a referral.Think about it?

BE PROACTIVE PURPOSEFUL: You MUST and I mean MUST follow-up! Schedule lunches with your fellow association or group members find out what they do so that you can refer them business; and as the saying goes one good turn deserves another… and it will. It always does when you pay it forward. Start with 3 a week.

BE YOURSELF: People are not stupid and they will smell an insincere fake like a baby’s diaper in an unventilated room in the middle of August! Pretty graphic but if you are being a fake and people find out about you they are going to think that you are full of the same thing that occupies that diaper! Remain Genuine.

I hope you found value in today’s post and I look forward to receiving your comments and connecting with you.

Talk to you soon! IMG_5727s

Tony Tate

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13 thoughts on “NetWORKING or NetWISHING, What are you doing?

  1. Hi Tony~
    I agree, networking really is what you put into it and not always about instant resutlts for your own business. It’s a planned and purposeful event you attend to build relationships that will foster future business and also referrals. People do business with those they like and trust so it takes time to build this and I believe you have to give first and it will always come full circle.

    I’m so happy to have you in the FB Chapter of WOAMTEC and like we said at the meeting, this group is about building each other in business and personally as well.

    Thank you so much for your support and I know we have a bright future with such a strong core to build FB WOAMTEC!!

    1. I am honored to even been asked to join, I am looking forward to contribute.

  2. Great tips Tony. I used to struggle with group events of any kind – I’m a card-carrying introvert, and while that doesn’t mean I’m “shy” it does mean I’m far more comfortable one-on-one or in small groups. But, it can be done, and you’ve listed some really good points to making the most out of the experience.

  3. Awesome blog you have here, Tony. Nice connecting with you on Facebook.

    Cool video. It’s vitally important to be yourself when you’re around people because when you try to be someone else, people can read right through you quickly and will avoid you. Be ready to give without wanting anything in return. That’s how you will attract quality people to yourself.

    Thanks for sharing my new friend 🙂

  4. Thanks for the great post and video,

    I have been to some networking groups like this and there were definitely engaging others and some who were the wallflower types that you mentioned.

    Like anything else, what you put into it determines what you will ultimately get out of it.

  5. Like Marquita, I am an introvert, only I am also shy. I will NEVER be a Tigger… it isn’t in me. However, that doesn’t mean I have to be an Eeyore either. Being myself will look different from trying to be like someone I’m not… i.e. “be”ing each of the things you have suggested in your awesome list will look different for me than it will for someone with a different personality type. But I can still do it, by focusing on the other person and his needs, rather than my own. Thanks for sharing this very practical list.

  6. hey Tony,

    Great tips!
    I really like the last one about being yourself… this is so important and it shines through with you 🙂
    Wish you all the luck in the world and thanks for sharing this!

    Talk soon,

  7. Hello again Mr Tate,
    NetWishing, I like that. It seems that alot of what I am reading this week is all about going back to the basic. Good old school marketing and making them physical connections. Even the president have to get out there and shack some hands. You well hear people tell you that you have to invest in your business. A lot of people take this has spending more money, and they forget that they have to invent themselves also. I am not telling about working more hours, I mean invest who they are. That is what people want to know the man behind the curtain, not the smoke and mirrors. TTYL

  8. Hi Tony!
    What an awesome strategy. I love the play on words of netWORKING and not net WISHING. It takes dedication and a lot of hard work to make things happen.
    Your points of being in the moment and be giving are very powerful statements. We have to be in the moment and practice the art of listening and giving is what we all do in order to achieve a successful business.
    Thanks for the inspiration,

  9. Hi Tony,
    First time here … found you thanks to TSA.
    Your blog looks great and easy on the eye.
    Love the way you explain your points…
    “like a baby’s diaper in an unventilated room in the middle of August”
    pretty much says it all 🙂

    Great post and thanks for sharing.


  10. Another great teaching from Tony Tate! Your energy is so inviting. Every time i read your name, I have to stop in for a visit, whether I’ve read the post before or not. I feel your energy calling to me and every time it is as if I have struck gold! Thank you for helping me spread the influence of National Seizure Disorders Foundation. Your website was one of my top referrers this month. My appreciation and gratitude are the most precious gifts I can give at this time and you have them unconditionally.

    Tonya Heathco, Founder
    National Seizure Disorders Foundation

    1. You are a joy to behold Tonya and I am with you in Spirit as you fight the good fight, I am truly blessed to hear how I bless you.

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